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Gratitude

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Thankfulness is a quality that we all tend to neglect, and we hardly slow down to think of the many things we should be happy and thankful for.

If you want to invite more positive things in your life, you also need to learn how to be more thankful. Sometimes we don’t feel like being thankful because we don’t have the things we really want yet, but even if that is the case we should be thankful for whatever we already have, by doing that we are inviting the things we really want.

The practice of gratitude will help you to change your perspective in life. If you feel that life is getting you nowhere, gratitude can change all that. Gratitude will help you redefine your own understanding of what is really happening in your life. You might be surprised how many things we should be thankful for.

The practice of thankfulness is tied up with your mental and emotional state and this leads to the basic principle of attraction that is “like attracts like”. If you want to end negativity in your life you have first be aware of the good and positive things you already have.

Being thankful is an efficient approach to identify the positive aspects in your life. When you are more thankful for the positive things in life you’ll also break the habit of dwelling on the negative. Don’t stop seeing the beauty of the Universe because of temporary problems.

Gratitude is not limited to just personal examination of the positive and beneficial things in your life. When you demonstrate to others their worth and be appreciative for that can also do wonders in your personal relationships. With this practice you will attract better relationships and fewer problems at home and work.

Forgiveness

Asking For Forgiveness

Asking For Forgiveness (Photo credit: hang_in_there)

Forgiveness lesson from flowers

Forgiveness lesson from flowers (Photo credit: juliejordanscott)

Ask yourself these questions; – “Do I feel there is a wall between myself and what I am trying to manifest in my life? Do I feel that something is holding me back and keeping me from receiving what I desire?”- That blockage you feel might simply be lack of forgiveness. Un-forgiveness brings very negative emotions into your life and like any other kind of negative emotion; lack of forgiveness stands on the way of your ability to have your desires be manifested through the law of attraction.
You’ve learned from childhood that good or bad deeds are rewarded accordingly, and you don’t see any motive in forgiving something that deeply caused hurt, you feel that it is easy to just forget about it and ignore the person. This sounds logic to you and it does not look like it should be a problem, but there is a problem because holding on to grudges is like carrying a heavy load, as you have to be reminding yourself constantly of what cause the hurt in the first place.
Forgiveness will solve all this problems and negativity and will free you from the shackles of resentment and grudges, it will heal you.
If you feel guilty or sad about past events or things that happened in the past you have to forgive yourself, even before you forgive others. If you feel guilty or blame yourself for anything in the past you’ll lack the belief to receive anything from the God or the Universe, because when you don’t forgive yourself or others you are limiting your capacity to receive anything, you feel you don’t deserve to have more. –Non-forgiveness in itself is a limiting condition.
To be able to forgive, you have to let go of your judgement. It is judgement of the other person that keeps you from letting go and forgiving
When you give up the stronghold of your personal judgement, forgiveness will be a lot easier to you, you’ll be able to let go of your initial personal judgement and at the same time you’ll see motives to forgive.
Peace of mind is a good motivation to forgive. Holding on to grudges does not give you peace of mind, the resentment will be popping up in your mind constantly and that will keep you from manifesting good positive things in your life.
Remember that whatever happened in the past can’t be changed, what has been done is done and the God does not dwell on past mistakes, it does not matter anymore. The universe and the law of attraction are only compliant to what is happening now and what you are planning for the future.
Un-forgiveness and holding on to grudges is a waste of energy, so in the end you are just wasting your time and energy on something you cannot do anything about anyway.
To be able to forgive it is required that you let go of your own judgments and believe that nothing bad has been done to you, as you do that and discard all anger and resentment and begin to form more happier, positive thoughts and emotions you’ll also see the law of attraction working for you and bringing to you the things you desire the most and want to manifest in your life.

Is Your Glass Half-empty?

Happiness

Happiness (Photo credit: baejaar)You miss so much if you look at life through the half-empty glass. Taking the negative slant on life leads to a life of negative thinking that never sees the good things that life has to offer.

Take a moment and write down all the things that are wrong with your life. Then, on a different piece of paper, write down all of the blessings you have. For a negative person, this can be hard. Did you wake up in a warm bed this morning? Was your bed warm? Was there someone on the other side of the bed? Did you have breakfast? Did you go to a job? In a car? Did you have clean, decent clothes to put on? Each any every one of these things are blessings and are a positive part of your life. It can be so easy to think about the negative things: I don’t get paid enough, my car is old, and the cereal wasn’t fresh – come on! Half the world would love to have the things you took for granted just this morning!

What do you ever get out of life by looking at the negative aspects of your it? Are you a complainer? Are you a complainer because of your circumstances or do your circumstances make you complain? How much worse could things be? When you really think about your life, aren’t you truly blessed compared  to others around the planet?

Try thinking positively as a way of finding happiness and satisfaction in your life. Complaining does nothing, except making you feel more unhappy and make others around you feel bad, and if that’s your intention, you need to re-think it, because I am sure that you want to be happy and one way to find happiness is to do things that make others happy.

You are the only one that can make yourself happy, if you depend on people, things or circumstances to make you happy, you’ll never be, but if you decide that you’ll be happy in spite of all those things and centre your attention on making someone else happy instead of yourself, then happiness will find you.

Be a Good Listener

Communication

Communication (Photo credit: P Shanks)

One of the key factors in good communicating is the ability to be a good listener.

We all feel the need to be understood, we like when others listen and sympathise with us, because it helps us to clarify issues in our minds and boosts our confidence making it easier to communicate our thoughts. It just feels good to have someone that takes their time to listen. But when we feel the other person is not interested or receptive to what we want to say, we immediately shut ourselves and keep inside whatever it is that we would like to share. That’s a sad thing to happen and we should always be willing to learn and to go the extra mile to listen to others. We all need each other at one time or another, and who knows? You might be their last resort, the one they really trust to help them find a solution to their problem or get some sort of encouragement inspiration or advice that can greatly influence their life for the better.

Being a good listener is a priceless gift that we all have, but that is not developed to its full potential in many of us, sad to say.

When somebody is trying to communicate something  to us, we should just listen, not only with our ears but also with our heart  and really t make the effort to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes, but more  often than not, instead of paying attention to what the person is trying to communicate,  we are already formulating in our minds the answers  we are going to give them, and because of that we don’t really listen therefore  we are not able to understand the person, and in many cases making the wrong assumptions and judgments, ending up giving the wrong advice or worse than that making the other person feeling misunderstood, discouraged or judged.

The good news is that we all have the ability to be good listeners, we are all gifted with all that it takes to be a blessing to others, we just need to perfect our gift of listening, practice it until we are good at it.

These are few things we can do to help us be better listeners:

1)  Listen without judgment; keep your mind focus on what the other person is saying to you

2)      When you are tempted to give a quick answer, just silently and slowly count to ten. By doing this you will learn to be more in tune with the other person and at the same time hear more clearly what they are trying to communicate to you.

3)      Make sure that your focus is always on the other person not yourself, or the good advice you are eager to deliver.

4)       Make it a point to listen intently to the other person, instead of formulating answers in your mind.

5)      Do not interrupt, wait until the person is finished talking before you have your say.

6)      When giving your answer, don’t always follow what looks like common sense or logic, instead follow your intuition, your intuition is the first thing that comes to your mind, it does not seem logic, but it feels right, and it is usually right. It will come to you when the person has finished talking.

These are just a few things we can do, but there are so much more that we can learn. Let’s all try to be better listeners and use the ability we have to be a blessing to others and in return it will also be a blessing to ourselves, because there is nothing more fulfilling and rewarding, than being able to inspire and encourage someone else.

More than often by being a blessing to others, we realize that as we give we also receive and learn things about ourselves, things we haven’t thought about before,  and at the same time discover hidden gifts and talents we did ‘t know we had.

Managing Stress

Stress has always been a part of our daily lives. We often find ways to deal it with but can become unbearable when you’re tightly under its grip. The important part here is to take control of stress before it ends up controlling you — which is to say that you will be making a lot of mistakes that will take quite a lot of time and effort to fix. This is where stress management comes in.

Why Get Rid Of Stress

We can never deny the fact that stress can be a big hindrance in everything you plan to do with your life. It can get in the way of business, career, or even with your family and friends. If you give in to the irritation and anger that is often the result of stress, you are bound to make wrong decisions and plenty of mistakes that will bring you down.

You can lose your job, do badly in a business deal, or even make enemies left and right when you let your stress control you. Learn to control stress and get rid of it every time it crops up for self-improvement.

Find The Source Of Your Stress

Knowing the source of your stress gives you plenty of options to counter it. If your stress stems from overwork, then take some time off from your busy schedule to relax.

The home can also become a stressful environment, especially when it’s disorganized. If you think that the design of the interior is giving you problems, then take some time to rearrange the furniture around or add some home décor to make it comfortable to look at.  Once you are able to determine the problem then you can take the necessary steps to correct it.

Learn To Relax Once In A While

Everyone would agree that work, or the demands of work, is mostly the cause of stress. If you think that you have that wild look in your eyes every time your boss asks you to do something, then you better ask for a vacation leave to relax yourself outside your work area before it leads you into trouble.

Take some time off from your busy schedule and visit the local spa. Pamper yourself by indulging in a full-body massage or get an aromatherapy session going on to help you relax. You can always take a vacation if you really want to get the thoughts of work out of your system, but a massage will do just fine if you can’t afford to be absent from it.

Find The Child Within You

Kids are known to be stress-free. Even if you scold them or force them to eat vegetables, you will never see them suffer from stress. The reason here is with their mind-set to enjoy life as they see fit. You can take your cue from them and enjoy life more.

Find your inner child and just play. You can grab your Play station out of the cabinet and bring out the games you usually play during your free time. Another idea is to listen to your favourite music or read some comics on the Internet. You can even play online games if you like just to get your mind off your work.

Keep in mind that the gist of stress management is not the methods you take for getting stress out of your system. The idea here is to learn how to divert your mind from the problems that causes stress to give yourself time to relax and face the problem with a clear mind.

Don’t Give Up

Usually when we embark in a new venture we feel excited, hopeful, and sure that it is going to be a success but things are not always going according to our expectations and it can become very challenging to keep the momentum and our positive attitude towards it. We discover that there is a lot more to it than what we initially thought and we get discouraged and start having feelings of incapability and it can look like an impossible situation if we start listening to this little negative voice telling us that it is impossible, that we are wasting our time and better quit.

I have experienced this myself over and over again and sometimes I go through these ups and downs. I see it happen and the next day it looks impossible and I want to give up. I get impatient, I want to see quick results, I feel that I am not able or don’t know enough to make it happen. Sometimes it appears insurmountable but next day I can visualize a positive outcome and get inspired again. I don’t know if others feel the same way but this is what happens to me, specially, when I am trying to do something I never did before where I feel challenged and have to learn new things and overcome mind blocks to get to the desired results.

Through these experiences I learned some valuable lessons that really worked for me and maybe they will also work for you if you sometimes encounter these same difficulties in your life. The first thing to remember is not despair or give up your dream.

One thing that helps me a lot is to refocus my attention to the initial idea, remembering how excited I felt and keeping that emotion in my heart and recapture that vision in my mind. When I do this I start immediately seeing the mountains melting away and the vision that makes it all possible coming back.

Another thing that helps me a lot is to gain more knowledge about the matter in order to feel more confident. Lack of confidence can be an obstacle to achieving our goals, because of that it is important that I learn all that I can and need so I can feel confident and secure in my endeavour. Lack of knowledge can in fact be a very discouraging obstacle to achieving our dreams, but remember that there isn’t anything that can’t be learned if we decide in our minds to do it.

Another big block to our success is disorganization and time management. If I don’t plan things well and manage my time wisely I end up busy all the time but not really doing the most important things in order to make progress and accomplish my goals. I learned to alot a certain amount of time for everything I have to do and stick to it even when I am tempted to do more of what I enjoy and postpone the things that are more tedious. In fact I am learning to do the most unpleasant things first, so they are out of my mind, and I can relax more doing what I like best.

My believe system can shift from one moment to another according to my mood and if I get into a negative mood everything looks like a huge mountain, but if I get inspired all mountains melt away and there isn’t absolutely anything that is not possible. Sometimes little things trigger negative thoughts and my outlook starts to change making things apear more difficult. I realize that it helps if I just acknowledge what it is that caused it and try to move away from there. To do that I make a decision to choose to think positive thoughts, thoughts that are aligned with the fulfilment of my desires and dreams and it always works. The power of positive thoughts is amazing.

I discover that to keep my dream alive and continue to keep my vision and focus, it helps if I read inspirational material, material that motivates me to keep on believing, have faith and the certainty that nothing is impossible, and for as long as I keep my mind firm on that all the obstacles seem easy to overcome and I am always able to envision a positive and fulfilling outcome.

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Keep Calm

If we could have more faith and trust at times when conflicting situations arise, if we could pause and be silent instead of impulsively react, if we could be patient and hold our tongue a little longer, if we could listen more, if we could trust and not worry and let our fears rule our minds. When we step aside and keep the calm, we’ll avoid so much regret, pain and waste of our precious energy that could be used for more constructive and loving things.

Resistance to things we don’t like, that bother us, that cause us to be upset, worried angry and aggravated with others only stop our progress and take away our happiness, besides depleting us of our precious energy so needed to accomplish our goals and purpose in life. We also lose our focus and vision when we get caught in this trap and stop ourselves from making progress in what really matters.

But worse of all is that when we overreact, get frustrated and upset with others, showing our resistance and overpower, we are actually giving more strength to the very thing that we are fighting against. Every time we resist something we are giving it more power and strength, we are attracting what we don’t want into our lives, and losing our focus and energy so needed for the things that really count in our life

In the other hand if we are positive, demonstrating our faith in people and situations we are preserving our precious energy and strength for the things that really matter and at the same time keeping our life happier and free from attracting unwanted things.

When we learn to trust and flow with situations that usually cause us stress, getting angry at people or trying to push things our way, we realize that having peace and harmony is more precious than anything else and matters tend to solve themselves while at the same time we keep our inspiration and happiness  and preserve our energy. By keeping this trustful attitude we’ll recognize that things are not as bad as we thought they were and change our outlook and the way we perceive things.

Try this to avoid arguments:

Breath deeply and count to ten

Keep silent and listen to the other person

Never interrupt the other person

Don’t judge

Don’t formulate answers in your mind while the person is talking

Be open to other possibilities

Be willing to admit you are not always right

Be positive and expect the best.