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More Confidence…

Confidence-based learning

Confidence-based learning (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We all lack confidence sometimes. I think that even the most well prepared and self-assured people in the world lack to feel completely confident at one time or another. Confidence comes from the belief that you are capable and holding to that belief, focusing on it without worry or fear while you are enjoying your course of action. Self-confidence does not mean that you’ll always be successful , what it means is that you’ll not have fear of failing or worry about whatever you are doing but instead  you’ll be relaxed and self-assured and because of that it is more likely that you’ll be successful.

Not being skilled and knowledgeable about a certain matter can cause you to have a hard time mastering confidence and be successful at that. Self-assurance comes from believing in your own abilities, from being well versed on the topic and to equip yourself well before beginning any new project. Sometimes you think that you  are prepared to soon realize that you don’t know enough, that you did not study and become really educated  about it, you did not apply yourself  and give it enough attention and time assuring yourself that you really know and not only think you already know.

In order to be confident about anything you need to know your subject well, study and educate yourself about it. Gather all the information and knowledge you can about it and practice as much as possible. The more you do these things the more confident you’ll be and the more successes you’ll have.

Don’t be over-confident or confuse self-confidence with presumption. Presumption is when you are too sure about yourself and boast about it without really knowing. Being self-confident means you are certain about a chosen course of action, keeping quiet and believing that you’ll have a positive outcome. It is to have inner peace and hold on to a positive outcome.

Being positive has a lot to do with self-confidence as negativity has to do with fear of failure. If you keep positive and inspired you are more likely to feel confident and learning will become easier for you, you’ll be self-assured that you’ll be successful – That is what self-confidence really is.  But in order to be positive you’ll have to ready material that inspires and boosts your self-confidence, specially reading success stories from other people and study to become well knowledgeable about your topic.

The more successes you have the more confident you’ll become, so it is important that you are well prepared, doing everything you can to have success in whatever you are doing thus generating more confidence that  helps you to be more effective in creating more and more successes in your life. Remember that self-confidence and success go hand in hand always. One generates the other. Success causes you to be more confident and confidence causes you to be more successful. So make sure that you do everything you can to feel assured and certain before  jumping into any course of action to avoid failure and increase your confidence.

Seven things that raises your self-confidence:

1)      Believe in yourself, you have all that you need to be successful.

2)      Don’t do things just to please others.

3)      Always align what you do with your purpose in life.

4)      Become knowledgeable and educate yourself well about your subject.

5)      Read other people success stories.

6)      Strive to be positive and dwell always on a positive outcome.

7)      Enjoy the ride, have fun without fear or worry.

Think Positive

Whatever it is you think about you’ll become. Seek to think positive thoughts, not only about yourself, but also about others. Remember that whatever you don’t like on others, or that make you judgmental or critical of them is no more than looking yourself in the mirror, because those are the very things you don’t like about yourself.

Be careful about talking negatively about others, watch your words, because whatever it is that you put out into the world it will not only come back to you, but also it will be part of you.

You are whatever occupies your mind the most, make sure to think thoughts of love compassion gratitude, forgiveness and acceptance towards yourself and others and peace will be with you.

Don’t try to fix others or think that they should be this or that way to be accepted by you, just accept them as they are. Remember that if you can change anything it is only yourself and when you do that your perspective on others will also change.

Usually what we perceive about situations or other people is no more than our own opinion and a reflection of ourselves and our own thinking.

It helps us to remember that others also feel that they are right and that should be enough for us to just stop trying to change them to our way of thinking, and instead accept them as they are and give them the right to think the way they do.

You don’t have to compromise yourself to be accepted by others and the same way you can’t expect them to change in order to be accepted by you. Just be yourself and let them also be.

When you are  judgemental of others, you need to stop and put yourself in their shoes, than you will see things through the perspective of love, understanding and compassion, and find peace with yourself and them.

Remember, when you don’t like something about others you are doing no more than mirroring yourself. What you see in them is a reflection of you. I know it is not easy for us to acknowledge that, but it is a fact that we can only know the things we experience ourselves.

Give up trying to change others to your way of thinking. Think positive about them, and you’ll become a more loving and kind person attracting the same into their lives.

Meditate on the good, think positive and inspired thoughts towards the world, others and yourself and you’ll be creating a better world for yourself and others. Remember that whatever flows out of your being creates your own world

The more you learn to discipline yourself and think only good positive and uplifting thoughts about yourself and others, the more good things will flow into your life

You create your own reality depending in what you think about. If your thoughts are loving, kind and joyful your life will reflect that to yourself and others and cause you to have more peace and rest of mind.

Cease all struggle by just embracing things in your life, accept that if it happens to you it is good for you and it will be. Fight against and try to stop what you don’t like and it will stick to you like glue.

How can you know what goes on in other people’s hearts, if you have a hard time knowing exactly what goes on in our own?

Be Joyous Today

Happy kid

Happy kid (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Being joyous is much more than just being happy. It is a state of bliss where we feel totally content, blessed pleased, and satisfied, it is a state of mind that can be created through the choices we make. We can shift from happy to sad in a moment, depending on what goes around us, but being truly joyous is something we possess apart from what is going on around us. It comes from knowing that all is well regardless of what we our feelings and emotions are, it is to know that we are loved and blessed beyond measure

But being joyous is also a God-given gift, is not something we get by being forceful and trying to always get our way, but it is instead in finding contentment in the simple things of life in a relaxed and trustful way knowing that even the things that don’t appeal to us at a first glance can be transformed in blessings when we align our will with God’s will and flow with it.

We are our own worst enemy when it comes to be truly joyous because we tend to put all our focus on ourselves, forgetting those around us thinking that we are the centre of everything and forgetting that we together are the centre and that instead of making everything turn around ourselves and what we want we should just become more detached from whatever we want so much in order to get it.

Attachment to the things we want and think we need to have joy is always an obstacle to attain those same things. We struggle and work so hard, sometimes we trample over others and become unkind because we think that is the way to get what bring us joy, but when we act in this way we are instead repelling the joy that we so much desire instead of attracting it.

Our biggest goal is always to find happiness and joy in life. It does not matter what each one of us thinks it will bring that to us, and what I think I need to have joy might be very different from you, that doesn’t really matter, what matters is that the only way to get it is to detach ourselves from the things we think brings it to us. For as long as we are strongly attached to something it will be difficult to find joy in that same thing and instead the opposite will happen.

Good things always come to us in a smooth way. We create them by believing in them, by seeing them in our mind, by feeling them and being already happy and not by force, complain or struggle, and definitely not by making our happiness depending on those things. I am not saying that everything is handed to us in a silver platter and we should just relax be lazy and expect it to fall from the sky, no, what I am saying is that it is important to do all we have to do, with believe and certainty that we will receive all that we need, and that sometimes is not exactly what we thought would make us happy, but something even beyond our expectations and that brings us real joy. That is why it is so important to be detached from things and to be open that the best will come to us always.

Let us ride our life’s like a wave, flow with it, and enjoy the ride to the full by just being there ready to catch it without struggle or fear, knowing that for as long as our will is in harmony with the strength of that wave, we’ll have unspeakable joy, but if we struggle and try to ride it our own way the opposite will happen and we’ll lose the joy of living.

So here is my secret to find joy today; – Be kind, be thankful, relax and flow with life, make the decision to be happy now, stop the struggle, separate yourself from what you think makes you happy and in doing so find peace.

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To your joy

Maria